falling inlove..
it is a mystery why we fall in love. It is a mystery
how it happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It
is a mystery why some love grows and it is a
mystery why some love fails. You can analyze this
mystery and look for reasons and causes, but you
will never do anymore that take the life out of the
experience. Just as life itself is more than the sum
of the bones and muscles and electrical impulses
in the body, love is more than the sum of the
interests and attractions and commonalities that
two people share. And just as life itself is a gift
that comes and goes in its own time, so too, the
coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable
gift that cannot be questioned in its ways.
Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life -
the gift of love will come to you in full flower. Take
hold of it and celebrate it in all in expressible
beauty. This is the dream we all share. More often,
it will come and take hold of you, celebrate you for
a brief moment, then move on. When this happen
to young people, they too often try to grasp the
love and hold it to them, refusing to see that it is a
gift that just as freely, moves away. When they fall
out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit
of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the
love that is lost rather than accepting the gift for
what it was, then moving on.
They want answers where there are no answers.
They want to know what is wrong in them that
make the other person no longer love them, or try
to get their love to change, thinking that if some
small things were different, love would bloom
again. They blame their circumstances and say
that if they go far away and start a new life, their
love will grow. They try anything to give meaning to
what has happened. But there is no meaning
beyond the love itself, and until they accept its
own mysterious ways, they live in a sea of misery.
You need to know this about love, and accept it.
You need to treat what it brings you with kindness.
If you find yourself in love with someone who does
not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is
nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to
rest in the other person's heart. If you find yourself
someone in love with you but you don't love him
back, feel honored that love came and called at
your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot
return. Do not take advantage; do not cause pain.
How you deal with love is how you deal with
yourself. All our hearts feel the same pains and
joys, even if our lives and ways are different. If you
fall in love with another, and he falls in love with
you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to
reclaim it or to assess blame. Let it go. There is a
reason and there is a meaning. You will know in
time. Remember that you don't choose love. Love
chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for
all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel
the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out
and give it away. Give it back to the person who
brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem
it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in
any way you can.
There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been
so long without love, they understand love only as
a need. They see their hearts as empty places
that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at
love
as something that flows to them rather than from
them. The first blush of new love is filled to
overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to
seeing their love as a need. They cease to be
someone who generates love and instead become
someone who seeks love. They forget that the
secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be
made to grow only by giving it away.
Remember this and keep it to your heart. Love has
its time, its own season, its own reason for coming
and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or
reason it into staying. You can only embrace it
when it arrives and give it away when it comes to
you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or
from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you
can do and there is nothing you should do. Love
always has been and always will be a mystery. BE
GLAD THAT IT CAME TO LIVE FOR A MOMENT
IN YOUR LIFE.
the hardest thing in life is when you know inside
your heart you still love the person .. but you've run
out of reasons to fight for what you feel & what you
believe in...
